Hosting Conversations about Questions that Matter
Hi Christine -
I came across this video today on TedTalks and, although not about mindfulness, I thought it was related and just honest & beautiful. It's by Brene Brown & is called the Power of Vulnerability. Hope you enjoy it.
Hello Christine...from the banks of Lough Erne in Ireland...where, in tune with the seasonal energy, I am hibernating through the dark winter months awaiting clearness on the very question you ask amongst other questions.
So I like your question so very much.
Over this last year I have been asking myself and others many questions about the 'processes' and 'methods' we use in our hosting and facilitation. Having been a practitioner and advocate of OS, WC, FS, Ai, Circle and more for 10 years now I have observed myself become increasingly aware of these 'methods' as impediments to 'flow'. I sense that they can hold the group awareness (the field of knowing) in the shallows. This came to me very powerfully recently when in the course of a collaborative inquiry process with a group of Quakers, I received the comment that the 'process' got in the way of deepening discernment. Quakers know much about discernment processes as this is part of our tradition. So I paid attention...the resonance stayed with me and reminded me so much of the caution in "Dialogue, The Art of Thinking Together" by William Isaacs where Isaacs suggests this very thing. So this journey of reflection is bringing new perspectives on what these conversation processes that have been so much part of my life ...and what further evolution is being called for from them. That is what i am sitting with...
At the heart of this is the consciousness that the host or hosts bring(s) with them or embody...Mindfulness practice has been a day and daily part of my life for several years now...I think this practice has brought me to this new understanding...The "awareness of awareness" moment to moment is a powerful discipline...My own experience is that it is a life's journey to learn to live the practice of presence. It it certainly worth a life's work however, so profoundly does it illuminate our view of ourselves,of the interconnectedness of all of life and of this flow that is everywhere...part of which is the field of knowing...
I have found it difficult to know quite how to express what i have just said. I hope it feels like an opening...I send it with that love. Cliodhna
Hello Cliodhna and others,
You write: "At the heart of this is the consciousness that the host or hosts bring(s) with them or embody..." I think this is realy true!
And the depth of experience for the participants can only be amplified if the host expand herself to be a part of a hosting team, that works exactly with this deep mindfullness or consciousness. That's what I learned over time. We use to say: it takes a field to host a field.
Also, the depth of 'deepening discernment' that the Quakers are looking for, I can only find it in the Circle Practice, where the hosts bring in this deep quality of awareness + are conscious of many layers and dimensions in our experience. And I think we have much to learn from the deep practice of the Quakers, how it was originally envisioned.
There is way more to say, but it is difficult to express in this online format. If you want, we can always talk more about this.
The sustenance of relationships is relating. Can you relate? I knew that you could.